Written Diarrhoea

With all due respect to my readers who bother to email me, can I request you guys to give me some space for privacy?

I’ll address it here once and for all – Because I realise I am almost always copying and pasting my ‘standard’ reply to certain requests.

1. Please don’t ask for my real name. 

I get that almost every time and I’ll just tell you guys upfront that I won’t say it.  The funny thing is that you guys do not seem happy with that answer but instead, conveniently swept it as I am not returning your sincerity in making friends. Seriously, what has making friends got to do with disclosing my name? Does it matter if I am called Lily, Lucy or Mary?

Don’t tell me things like you have told me your name because, frankly, I don’t care! I don’t even believe it in the first place. If you tell me that you are John, so what? That’s a real name? There are easily thousands of Johns in the world! And John may be the short form for Jonathan, Johnny, or whatever. I’m not sure how you guys think. Would you all be happier if I play along with you all and then just give you a fake name? I can easily tell you that my name is Sue. Go guess if it’s Susan, Sussie or really, Sue. But I don’t. I think sincerity comes with honesty and so upfront, I prefer to tell you that I will not give out my real name.

And i guess i also have some brains to know that a real name given will end up disclosing who i really am. You may be able to retrieve my pictures from the internet or something and then pass it around. So if you are talking about sincerity, I wonder what kind of sincerity are you offering me? To find out things that I’m unwilling to share? Or worse, to sabotage me?

Honestly, so what if you give me your full name plus your identity card number? If you know a bit of risk management, then you’ll realise that the disclosure of my identity carries more risk than yours (since i’m a so-called lady sex blogger who will be judged in a conservative asian context). Seriously, there’s nothing that I will gain from your details! So I really don’t see where your ‘sincerity’ is coming from, except probably to dig more of my information in your most subtle way.
 
If you wanna talk about sincerity, then be really sincere in the first place. Respect each other’s boundaries.

For God’s sake, please don’t say things like “oh, don’t you trust me?”. Seriously, trust? Don’t make me laugh. We are all mature adults to know how sex maniacs prey on ladies and while I’m not saying you are one, I definitely need to protect myself in one way or another.

I blog because I want to have a record of my life. That includes my sex life. But that doesn’t mean that I am desperate and will go for anyone with a dick. Seriously, it’s just an online diary. I am not expecting anything more, not even to make friends!

So if you are still following what I say so far, then, please apply to the below matters as well.

2. Please don’t request for me to meet up or do cyber sex with you.

3. Please don’t request for my picture, especially one with my face. 

4. Please don’t ask for my msn.

5. Please don’t… (I think you can fill it up for yourself by now).

Interestingly, you guys always have creative ways of requesting for the things that I mentioned above. But face it, no matter how subtle they seem to you, they are God-damn obvious to me. Give me some space, really. I will definitely appreciate you for that.

I’m not sure if the people who received my ‘standard’ reply are still reading my blog. Probably they are thinking what a bitch I am because I had outrightly slammed their ego. I’ve got no idea because they stop emailing me after getting my ‘harsh’ reply. It doesn’t matter really. I didn’t blog with the purpose of gaining readers. It all came as a surprise, or a bonus, whatever you call it. Yet, I’m still keeping to the only motive that I had when I first started this blog – an honest revelation of my life. If that’s what you are interested in, stay on and read. If you are expecting more, then I’m sure you will always be disappointed.

Still, I appreciate your gesture to email me, but let’s keep it friendly… and within boundaries.

Thank you.