I felt disturbed when I saw a friend posting status messages on her facebook with phrases like,
“please don’t leave me.”
“it’s all my fault.”
“come back to me, and I’ll change everything for you.”
“I’ll be obedient.”
Since when love’s role is to turn someone into a begger?
Have dignity, please.
Truth of fact, she isn’t the only person that I know who would post such things after their breakups.
I don’t want to take sides or speculate who’s right or wrong. But when someone makes the decision to leave you, suck it up. Begging doesn’t make him change his mind – and if he did, it’s all for sympathetic reasons. I mean, how NOT to when you have tears in your eyes, or when you said you haven’t eaten for days?
I belive a breakup happens for a reason. Nobody is at a wrong because at the end of the day, it’s all about compatibility issues. If someone cannot take your shit, and yet does not have the patience to work things out with you, let him leave. It’s a blessing actually – because you stop wasting your youth on him. Remember how fast a lady’s market value depreciate as age catches up? So thank your ex for ditching you early. He’s being really kind.
If you beg, you are only making him feel all good about himself. But remember, in a breakup, BOTH of you have proven uncompatible. It’s NOT your fault and neither is his. (Think: it’s just like getting an apple to fuck an orange. Make sense? No? Exactly.) So why go all weak and let him feel that he can trample you around? Few months later when you get over the breakup, you’ll laugh or even hate yourself for stooping so low just to let someone incompatible leaves.
Embrace the breakup. Honestly how bad can it be? You will probably cry for months, find yourself having a lot of time on your hands and feel desperately horny because you are no longer having frequent sex with someone who already knows what ticks for you (ok that’s very bad). It’s definitely a tough phase, but take a macroscopic view, and you’ll realise, that’s ALL about it.
On the other hand, once you go beyond that, you will have learnt more about yourself and your needs in a relationship. And guess what, the next person may have a bigger heart and a larger dick! How not to get excited about that???
There’s always something to look for after a breakup. So smile and move on!
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Can’t blame your friend. Some of us are really less emotional and/or rational when it comes to matters of the heart.
‘..the next person may have a bigger heart and a larger dick!’
yea yea i agree… dont have to look far
don’t have to look far? yeah, simply look BEYOND u. i know.
ya just about 7inches beyond me.